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How To Forgive Ourselves Totally Chapter 4 Guilt, Grief, Regret, And Repentance
When Martha and Mary sent word to Jesus that His friend Lazarus was ill, they assumed that Jesus would stop what He was doing, come immediately to Bethany, and heal Lazarus. But he showed up four days after the funeral instead.
Mary and Martha were bewildered – and angry. When Jesus finally came to Bethany, they blame Him for their brother’s death, pointing their fingers at one of the time, saying, “If you had been here my brother would not have died” John 11:21, 32). Jesus had no pseudo-guilt for arriving when he did for arriving when He did. After all, His priority was the Father (John 5:19). Jesus listened and did not moralize them. He knew they were in grief. He wept with them (John 11:35).
When we are in grief it is good to cry. If Jesus could cry, so can you and I. Some people, especially men, are afraid or ashamed to cry. But it is good to do this; there is often healing in tears. God does not want us to feel guilty; this is why He provided a way to deal with any guilt of any kind. In any case, when we are in grief we don’t need to pretend we are not hurting. God completely understands. Furthermore, this is not necessarily a time for a “stiff upper lip”; it is rather a time to be broken and said – – truly a time to weep and mourn ( Ecclesiastes 3:4).
Could it be that you are in grief at this moment? Is it possible that this grief is mixed with a little guilt?
How To Forgive Ourselves Totally Chapter 4 Guilt, Grief, Regret, And Repentance
How To Forgive Ourselves Totally Chapter 4 Guilt, Grief, Regret, And Repentance